The Mediator believes that to be loved
and valued you must blend in and go along to get along.
Consequently, Mediators are self-forgetting, harmony-seeking,
comfortable, and steady, but also conflict-avoidant and sometimes
stubborn and passive-aggressive.
Abbreviated Version of the
Basic Proposition
:
The original blissful state
of unconditional love and union [the Holy Idea of Presence] wherein
everyone belongs equally goes into the background in a world that
you perceive makes you unimportant or has you blend in.
Consequently, you come to believe that instead you can gain
belonging and comfort by attending to and merging with others, and
by dispersing energy into substitute objects. Concurrently, you
develop inertia (self-forgetting) about your own priorities and
limits [the Passion of Sloth]. Attention naturally goes to others’
and environmental claims made upon you [the Fixation or Chief
Feature of Indolence].
Description of the Key
Characteristics
:
World makes you
unimportant or has you blend in.
Essence qualities of
right action and unconditional love go into background.
Assures worth by
substituting merging and belonging for own worth.
Develops inertia
(sloth) toward self—is self-forgetting of own priorities.
Attention goes to
environmental claims both essential and inessential.
Avoids conflict and
strife.
Sees all points of
view, difficulty [taking sides and] saying no.
Contains own
energy—anger goes passive (stubborn).
Wants comfort
(peacemaker).
Values harmony,
adaptability, supportiveness.
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Type Nine
Dalai Lama
Enneagram Type Nine
President Dwight David Eisenhower
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